People are often confused as to when to seek out couples therapy versus individual therapy. Here is a real easy formula: if you are having problems in your relationship, couples therapy is the best choice. It only takes one person in the relationship to feel like there is a problem. If it’s a problem for one, it’s a problem for both. Individual therapy does not provide the necessary platform to dissect each partner’s contribution to the dynamic that the two of you have created. learn more
Couples Intensive therapy is 1, 2 or 3 days of consecutive therapy for your relationship. Research has shown that couples in distress respond best to this longer method of treatment. Have you ever been in therapy before and felt like you were just getting started when the therapist said, “time is up”? That can be incredibly frustrating. It seems like it takes forever before change in implemented. Couples Intensives alleviates this by allotting the necessary time to see all aspects of the issue while providing real direction to getting the relationship back on track. learn more
Discover The Art and Science of Love at our world-renowned weekend workshop for couples presented by Shelly Hummel and her Colleague, Carole C. Cullen, in select North Carolina Cities. Based on over 40 years of research with thousands of couples, The Art and Science of Love workshop will give you new insights and research-based skills that can dramatically improve the intimacy and friendship in your relationship and help you manage conflict in a healthy, positive way. learn more
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152 Capcom Ave, Suite 101 Wake Forest, NC 27587
Shelly Hummel, LMFT
Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist, Gottman Certified Therapist
Welcome! Life circumstances facilitated my desire to become a marriage therapist in early adolescence. I graduated from The University of Iowa with Honors in Psychology and completed my graduate degree from Northern Illinois University. My passion has always been working with couples and that passion remains today. I have been in practice for 18 years, specializing in helping couples who are burdened by wanting to make their relationship work, but are uncertain of the tools and where to start. Learn more
I’m so glad you are here.
People are complex. Life is complex. Very few things are black and white – we live in a lot of grey, but are not always aware of it. Sometimes it helps just to have someone help you uncover and put to words all that you are experiencing. You might be reading this and thinking if therapy is for you?
I am happy to offer a free phone consult to see if we are a good fit!
Call 919-880-2566 to schedule.
Stay Happily Married Interview with Shelly Hummel, LMFT
Jennifer and Dave have been married for 3 years. “We have a huge argument every December right around the holidays,” complains Jennifer. “We just don’t seem to make spending time together a priority and when we do we argue and feel even less connected to one another.”...read more
These days, couples with children simply spend too much time devoted solely to their kids. Don't get me wrong, as a marriage and family therapist and a mother myself, I am fully aware of the importance of inclusivity and attention required to create a secure...read more
When couples come to my office, it’s usually for a variety of reasons, but one common theme stands out: they don’t feel connected to one another. This can be for a variety of reasons – from years of resentment as a result of old wounds, to accommodating a new baby...read more
Ever since the Morgan Freeman and Jack Nicholson 2007 movie, “The Bucket List”, there seems to have been an increased awareness of the importance of life’s major “to-do” list. This movie depicts the last months of two terminally ill men who flee from a cancer ward...read more
We've all been there. The urgent, no-addictive, need to check the phone when alerted to a text, tweet, email, or incoming phone call. It rings or vibrates, we are trained to respond. The problem is that now our phones are with us – usually AT ALL TIMES. It’s quite...read more
You’ve heard the old adage – never walk away from a fight. Or, never do to bed angry. Both of these imply that if you are in a relationship and having a disagreement, you both must pound the dead horse of a fight to it’s very messy and exhausting death. I am here to...read more
1. Ask your partner how they would feel most loved by you this week. Most couples assume they know what each other wants, but often times this is based on an assumption or old information. Show your partner you are in tune with them by inquiring what they need from...read more