Quiz*: Has your friendship become an emotional affair?

All too often, platonic friendships and work relationships can turn into something more.  How can you know if your friendship or your partner’s friendship has wandered down the slippery slope of an emotional affair?

Take the quiz below to find out:

Yes or No           1. Do you confide more to your friend than to your partner about how your day went?

Yes or No           2. Do you discuss negative feelings or intimate details about your marriage with your friend but not with your partner?

Yes or No           3.  Are you open with your partner about the extent of involvement with your friend?

Yes or No           4.  Would you feel comfortable if your partner heard your conversation with your friend?

Yes or No           5.  Would you feel comfortable if your partner saw a videotape of your meetings?

Yes or No           6.. Are you aware of sexual tensions in this friendship?

Yes or No           7.  Do you and your friend touch differently when alone than in front of others?

Yes or No           8. Are you in love with your friend?

Scoring: You get one point each for YES to questions 1, 2, 6, 7, 8, and one point each for NO to 3, 4, and 5.

If you scored near 0, this is just a friendship

If you scored 3 or more, you may not be “just friends.”

If you scored -8, you are definitely in an emotional affair.


*This quiz was developed by Shirley Glass, author of “Not Just Friends: Rebuilding Trust and Recovery your Sanity After Infidelity